There was this big controversy that exploded on Reddit the other day about why the beauty standards that apply to women don’t apply to men. Some people are basically saying that men are pretending not to care about body positivity because it would hurt their ego and others are saying that men are too focused on more important things in life to even care about their body shape. I asked a lot of my guys friends to hear what they had to say and I posted it on my blog to see what you guys thought. You will never believe the responses I got. Let’s jump into it!
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It's not about weakness, it's about facing the reality.
Most men AND WOMEN would laugh about a guy talking about body positivity.
The whole issue is that women are the real sexist.
The moment a man is not hard, stoic and uncaring (to a certain extent) they'll leave and find a 'proper' male.
Men are not stupid, we adapted this behaviour because it works.
When a woman says she wants us to 'open up' it's feel good bullshit from her side, women don't actually want men to open up.
They want all the pros of a modern and egalitarian society but still get the hard and strong man, not the feminized menslib feminist.
Cause fat men don’t get empowered , that get made fun of everywhere. The only time it’s praised is during the “bear pride . Fat/obese men have been cartooned like Homer or Peter .
I would say that this is more of a human issue people wanna feel good about their appearances. I spent most of my teenage years super insecure about my height (5" 7) and was looking ways to increase my height. This was mainly due to the fact that my younger sister gained an inch on me at some point and I didn't want other people making fun of me for being shorter than my sister. I was angry, sad and depressed but the worst part was that I couldn't talk about my feelings with anyone since I thought it made me look weak. I regret that a lot now. Now I know that my insecurities grow when I keep it a secret and when you bring it out it loses its hold.
I regret the way I behaved to my sister who was also going through a tough time for reasons other than mine. I was so caught up in my own head that I forgot what was important to me.
The best decision I made in the last 3 years was when I opened up to my sister about my insecurities (she knew 😅) it brought us closer than ever before. Now I can talk to her about anything and she is also more open with me. So I am all for a body positivity movement for men.
Sometimes society and men themselves forget they are human. And being human means being insecure and confident at the same time.
I just wanna start this off by saying that I am a rather "matter of fact" kinda guy. As someone who is naturally skinny (and I mean scrawny skinny) I have to put in alot of effort to keep my weight up, and seeing a more fit and muscular model shape is quite motivating for me. Many people say its social norms and whatnot that have brainwashed men but I genuinely associate muscular builds with a hardworking and successful person as they are at least to some degree used to putting in continual effort over time and care about their health/ perception. At the end of the day, it visibly displays ones dedication to an active life. Just as clarification im not saying that men can't be overweight (or underweight for that matter), the bottom line is simply that I personally dont think its as attractive.
Hello blogilates this is something that I have struggled with my whole life as a man. I feel like as a child I was picked (fat-shamed) on for my weight and struggled with it and finally reached 'medium' which was my most content weight. Then once I began working I slowly regained weight back to a Large. I have since been killing myself in the gym trying to get back to a size Medium to the point of complete depression and despair. I now look in the mirror and hate what I see. I realize a huge part of it is because I have been and am daily bombarded by youtube, tv shows, video games and google media, where six pack, lean and ripped men is all I see. As a man I strive to be these guys, and no matter how hard I try I always come up short and disappointed and discouraged. I am tired of chasing the dream body of abs, muscles and a perfectly sculpted head to toe body. I am grateful that the female and LGBTQ+ communities have embraced body positivities and different body shapes of all kinds. It's time that plus sized male models and especially plus sized male trainers were embraced. I wish to see more males with different body shapes that look like me, wider wastes, love handles and extra belly fat. I am tired of feeling ashamed of my love handles, and little extra belly fat and killing myself in the gym and in the kitchen (diet) trying to get rid of them and still not seeing results that I am satisfied with. I wish to exercise for health, body positivity and happiness now. God bless you all
This is so inspiring I've been thinking about what I want my YouTube channel to be about and what I want to do and I really want to bring more awareness to plus size male positivity being plus size myself I wish I had someone to look to for advise or just seeing someone talking about it would of helped me see that you don't need to be muscular and have a six pack to be considered sexy or handsome so I'm gonna try support the plus size community as much as I can and hope it brings change ❤️
Honestly, I just want clothes that fit properly. Most are either too long or short.
5:35 oh, that's how it's going to be
I think what was missed is that the “plus sized” women get to own their bodies more when it comes to accentuating parts of it that some men find more attractive. Aka, busts and bottoms. Men don’t get to do that, we don’t get to own our “curviness” and frankly women don’t gravitate towards that. In fact, with weight gain the only parts of us that actually sexualized are often hidden by a growing waist. It’s rare to hear a smaller or normal sized woman say that they are looking for a “curvy man”. Besides, men deal with a different body stigma completely “heightism”. Which has nothing to do with health, but also is something you can’t do anything about no matter what you try to alter in your lifestyle, barring radical surgery to gain a few cm’s. It isn’t that men have too much ego to admit it matters, it’s that there hasn’t seemed to be a market for body positivity/curvy dudes.
Men don’t care, because we k ow no one else does. Society doesn’t care what men feel.
I guess, in general, woman cares to much on what others say about her looks and often compares herself to what been said to be perfect body etc untill they need the 'body positivity movement' to feel comfort, while man on the other hand doesn't really care. So, no point putting extra money on producing different mold sizes for producing man's mannequin etc.
We lose common sense now. Since I was born, I know fat is not attractive. This is not media bias but this is how our instinct works. Fat partners are not healthy.
Why women always think men think and want the same thing they do? Point your missing: men don’t care about male models AT ALL! Doesn’t matter what they look like because that is not what’s important to us. Men don’t care about representation either (generally)
I want to say I like this video. But alot of the views on men are real generalisations and seem to be heavily based on the female perspective or stereotypes on how men should act.
While I do find it very annoying that larger men are not represented in terms of fashion – larger men have been largely embraced in sitcoms and movies over their female counterparts. I think there are two very different battles here.
I appreciate you went to some effort to get some male perspective from your friends and viewers, but even they seem skewed to me.
Anyway – cool vid and thank you for speaking up for men.
To feel sorry for fat women
3:02 Actually, what he meant is that society and social media expect men to be always tough and never be soft or show emotions
We "Men" don't care, that's just it. Why can't you sxist feminist just accept that? Just because you people have issues about literally every freaking thing doesn't necessarily mean that we do too. All the so called "men" that are claiming to care about all these body positivity bull crap are also the same boys that are using the term "We're pregnant". We are Men, and we only care about the things that really matter,, like how to keep this world running.
Women objectify themselves. Judging their bodies by how society says they should look. If they are attractive to men. Men aren't taught by society that their looks are the most important thing about them
WOMEN. Stop blaming men and society for having to wear makeup. You wear makeup by trying to outcompete eachother.
Well as a news site said implicitly women are plus sized, men are overweight
All men care about their looks, and have the same selfesteem issues as women. But if you admit that as a man, you become even less attractive and almost undatable.
We are too busy trying to keep in shape. Just on the off chance of meeting one of these curvy babes.🤗.
Former fat person here. Don't find any excuse of you being fat. YOU created the obesity you are, not the society or nature. Its your food habits and lifestyle.
Just shut your mounth, eat less and exercise more.
Body positivism is another excuse created by fat people to fat people to avoid exercising.
Body standards are very much applied to men but it's less about how wide you are and more about how tall you aren't.
I'm short,fat and hairy. The only thing men should be concerned about is being able handle their affairs and being able take care of their women and children. That's it. I'm sure that's what women want out of men. Men care about how their partners look.
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This isn’t just for appearance expectations, this is all of our issues, we can’t even talk about if we’re depressed or stressed without someone telling us to shut up or to just take it. It can really affect me and my other males mental health.
Yeah it's easy isn't it, just read anything and instantly twist it into a patriarchal negativity XD
How about this, a man needs to be able to function, protect and provide, that's all.
In order to be able to provide and function, he needs functional strength, this doesn't mean women can't provide, doesn't mean women are weaker or anything like that.
It's all we know, me man, man strong for woman I love good, protec child, protec partner, protec meself, man work hard for family to give them what need, woman also work hard for family but in ways man no understand, me no time to learn this, causse man strong for woman I love good, protec child, protec partner, protec meself, man work hard…. ETC….
Do you understand?
It's quite simple why body positivity isn't something men give a shit about, they're busy running around being men. XD
No lies here excellent video. Just to add now male body beauty standards is weird and dynamic . In society , some men and women have a bad connotation towards the bodybuilding types of mehn (this also occurs with women ) . The ideal body type portrayed is usually lean men with athletic profiles similar to soccer players or track and field athletes . Now body idealism in males has actually seem some growth but very little. Bigger body types like body builders and bigger muscle men in general have been accepted by the modelling industry. There is still a common denominators here , men with low body fat percentage or lean, muscly or skinny frames are acceptable. There has been any sort of move towards mehn that can be considered chubby or high body fat . Hollywood has a part to play in this , a very big part. Whether people seemingly know this or aren't aware of this , Hollywood has portrayed what many will consider average looking males with average or less than average body types acquiring women with society's ideal concepts of beauty . Basically society has said an average Joe can get the most beautiful women according to society standards while with women no such concept was ever made. Often I see man of all shapes and sizes getting married to women with society's ideal body types. while for women they often go unmarried or with men of similar body types .